5. Expectations from Self and Others

Introduction

Parents and caregivers experiencing compassion fatigue are often competent people with high expectations for themselves, who may feel overworked and underappreciated. We give the very best of who we are every day, yet all too often struggle to feel like anything we do is good enough. We carry with us beliefs about how a parent or caregiver “should” look, think, feel, act, and be viewed by others. We often expect more from ourselves than we can reasonably give. As caregiving demands add up, our self-image, self-esteem, and sense of worthiness may erode, thus changing our perceptions of ourselves and our children. Our compassion resilience may decline. Understanding, and at times challenging, our own expectations and perception of others’ expectations is key to learning to identify, transform and overcome unrealistic beliefs that may limit our ability to approach others and ourselves with compassion.



Applications

Circle Agenda

Circle Agenda for Section 5, In-Person   Spanish Version
Use this agenda if you are leading your group in a session in-person.

Circle Agenda for Section 5, Virtual   Spanish Version
Use this agenda if you are leading your group in a session virtually.

Handouts to Support Content Covered in Circle Agenda

Understanding Temperament   Spanish Version

Affirmation Worksheet   Spanish Version
This activity was also referenced in the Introduction Document for this section. Formatted as a fillable PDF, you can send this document to participants to complete on an electronic device or print and distribute as a hard copy.

Caregiver Bill of Rights   Spanish Version